Monday, December 7, 2009

Smile a while

Yesterday, as I was casually walking in one of the by lanes, I spotted a sight that I couldnt help smile at .









This cutie pie, all of maybe 4-5 years, was washing clothes with such concentration and deftness - that everyone passing by her, had a smile on their faces .



Couldnt help thinking - This happens only in India :)

And heres wishing that you smile your week ahead ! :)

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Bread Uncle



Its never the people with riches, looks or position that we remember. Its the simple people who we meet in our day to day lives, who leave an everlasting impression. Its not about how knowledgeable, or accomplished they are, that our mind retains the moments we spend with them. Its about how they carried themselves about , how they behaved, how they spoke, and made us feel that makes us cherish their memories.

I must have been in my 8th std at that time. We used to be in Baroda. Baroda used to be a nice quite town those days. For my Bangalore friends, its much like Mysore in ambiance, climate and culture. We stayed in a nice big independent rented house in a peaceful quiet residential locality. Our house used to be behind the beautiful , princely, and cute 'summer palace' known as the Shiv Mahal palace. Within the radius of two kms from my home used to be the five star hotel - Welcome Hotel and the four star hotel - Express hotel. The neighbourhood and the place was beautiful! and just right for me and my brother's growth and education.

Those used to be busy days- what with my brother and me studying in secondary school and both my parents working. On those days when everyone in the house needed to get ready soon - and we needed to have a quick breakfast - we would generally have some variation of bread- Bread Omlette, Bread Toast or Bread Butter Jam. It would be my brother's or my job to go to the near by friendly shop and get the bread. One of the days like that, as my brother was going to get bread, we spotted a neatly and simply dressed, clothed in white, young man in his early thirties on a black colour hero bicycle, shouting - Bread ! Fresh bakery bread !

Bread at our doorstep ! wow ! My brother called him in and we were introduced to a packet of bread that had the softest feel that I had ever known. Can you imagine ! This bread uncle's job was to deliver bread from the bakery of the "FOUR STAR"-"EXPRESS HOTEL" !

Bread uncle had the nicest smile and was very kind and friendly. He would talk to us sometimes about our school. He would also tell us about his family. He would treat us as a favorite uncle treats his young friends and you bet ! we responded ! On the days we would want bread, we would actually wait for this uncle to make his daily rounds. We would then cherish and celebrate the moment when the uncle arrived. It was this uncle who introduced us to brown bread. Twenty years back when Express Hotel had started making Brown breads, this uncle urged us to try it. And boy ! Did we enjoy the brown bread ! :)

I distinctly remember one particular day. Mom was getting late to go out and she requested us to get bread. Secretly I was waiting for the bread uncle . But when he did not come, slightly disappointed and a little worried too, I took my cycle to go out - when- thankfully! I saw the bread uncle coming from around the corner of the street. Excitedly running to him, I bought the bread and I told him that had he come 5 mins late, I would have left to get the local shop bread. To which , he looked so disappointed and disheartened that- After 20 odd years - I still remember that look on his face.

We enjoyed the companionship of bread uncle and savoured the bread from the Express Hotel for as long as we stayed in Baroda. And then Dad got transferred again, and we left Baroda - but those memories of the Bread uncle are there deep in my mind and heart.

Monday, November 23, 2009

Ignited Minds - States of a Nation

Time and again, I have brought up in this space, excerpts of some books, that I found interesting to chew upon and digest. This time, I bring to you a paragraph about 'States of a Nation' from the APJ Abdul Kalam's Ignited Minds. He says and I quote -
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“A man is said to pass through different stages in his lifetime. Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, in his book Manifest Your Destiny, makes an interesting categorization of them as athlete stage, warrior stage, statesperson stage and spirit stage. It occurred to me that nations too make a similar transition and in extending this analogy to them I have termed the last two stages big brother and self-realization stages respectively. The stages do not follow in sequence necessarily; they can be coexistent, with one aspect dominant.

In the first, athlete stage, a nation fresh from an independence struggle, or some other transition, embarks on an energetic pursuit of performance and achievement. This has happened to Japan, Singapore and Malaysia.

When a nation leaves this stage behind, it generally enters the warrior stage. Proud of its achievements, it finds ways to demonstrate its superiority over others, perhaps through conquest. Ego is the driving force. During this stage people are busy with goals and achievements in competition with others and this, as Dyer points out for the individual, generates anxiety. Convincing others of its superiority becomes the theme.

In the next, big brother stage, the ego has been tamed somewhat and with its newfound maturity awareness shifts to what is important to other nations and societies. In the big brother stage the nation is still an achiever but it is not so obsessed with proving its strength. The idea is to help others become better. The erstwhile Soviet Union by its developmental role in some countries had adopted this role. As with the individual, so too with the nation, the transition from the warrior stage to the big brother stage is a rewarding but difficult exercise.

There is one stage even higher than this big brother stage. In this, a nation recognizes its truest essence. It comes out of the wisdom that the earth is no single nation’s inheritance but of all, and its people are aware of the responsibility of the individual towards his fellow human beings. This can be called the realization stage…”
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As I was writing this post, I was reminded of a 'Team building and leadership' training that I had attended in Wipro. There we were shown that any team passes through four stages - Forming, Storming, Norming and Performing.
a. Forming is when the team is just formed .
b. Storming is when each person in the team wants to show his prowess and superiority over others.
c. Norming is when some clear leaders emerge for the various areas in which the team operates. These leaders are accepted by one and all in the team.
d. Performing - Now that the leadership is clear - the team works together , supporting each other and giving a high quality performance.

Interesting isnt it :) I guess the parallels between the team stages and the human being stages as mentioned in the Manifest your Destiny is clear for all of us to see.

Well, politics is not exactly my subject. But for the purpose of the post, I did some thinking :) If you look at India, in the areas of industrial growth, art and culture, we would be still at the athlete stage - maybe bordering on warrior stage. With regards to our education system, I would say we are in the Warrior Stage. Today our education systems and engineers are being highly lauded for and in demand world wide. As regards to Spirituality, I would say we are in the big brother or even self realization stage - what with, yoga, pranayama and courses like 'art of living', spiritual leaders like Ramdev baba, Sri Sri Ravi Shankar , Rishi Prabhakar making a huge impact the society in general.

Interesting topic right ? What are your thoughts on this ?

Monday, November 16, 2009

Bacche bade ho gaye :|



There has always been this half finished portrait of a lady and her cat ( done by yours truly :) -This painting is a copy of some original work. ) on the walls of my house. I know for some this portrait looks great and for some of you , not so much. But for me, even in its unfinished state , this painting has always been very enduring. I love the lady, the cat, the apples, the mountains, the cloud, the lake behind - everything. - But thats not the point of this post.

We have had a very old friend Ravi, who's been our ( Raghav and mine ) friend ever since the Wipro days( For people who dont have much background about me - I am talking of atleast 10 years back ). Ravi , though , just 5-6 years older to me, had got married young and had two wonderful children Santosh and Bhavani - who probably were between 7-9 years at the time we first met in Wipro.

And as with friends, we loved visiting this family and the family loved visiting us. Every time the family visited us- the next day during lunch, we would have long, entertaining discussions about the time spent the previous evening. And Ravi would tell us how much his children enjoyed the party, the house, the food and the companionship.

Among the other things, Ravi once told me how much the children gushed over the painting. He mentioned that the children kept talking about the cat and how alive it looked! I would be amused at that . In my mind , I would think - is that all these kids noticed in this painting? ( If you notice, the cat doesnt even take a 5% of the painting ) ! :|

But then, I would laugh it off and regale myself in the compliments. :)

After that for around 7-8 years more, due to various circumstances, the family never got to visit us at our home. And one fine day, last year, we had the pleasure of having this family as our guests.

By now the children were around 14-16 years old . They were teenagers now and behaved like one:) Both of them talked about their school/friends, joked the way teenagers do, looked around the house and - they spotted the painting again! They were enamored by the painting and praised the painting - all over again! They had completely forgotten about having seen this when they were kids.

They mentioned how they looooovvvved the painting and then - they look at me in wonder and say - 'Aunty - the lady in the picture is soooooo beautiful !Appa - look ! isnt this lady beaaautiful !!'

I was stumped ! :|

I look at them and I smile in my mind :)

Shaking my head, with a smile on my face, I say to myself - Bacche bade ho gaye ! ( The kids have grown up now ! ) :)
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Ravi - This post goes out to you , Mamata, Santosh and Bhavani. :)

Monday, November 9, 2009

Thoughts ! Thoughts !

I started reading the "Secret" recently. This book talks primarily about the law of attraction - According to followers of this law, thoughts have an energy which attracts whatever it is the person is thinking of.

Have you felt the universe ever responding to your thoughts ? Have you ever felt your thoughts reaching out to a person( maybe a close friend), and that friend responding to your thoughts? When I read the line above, I remembered an incident that had happened with me long time back.

When I was in Mumbai, I had befriended a very nice christian girl R. Life with R was fun. We had our share of smiles and tears and we went on to become each others best buddy. There were times when one or both of us would be going through a very tough phase - but the other was always there as a pillar of strength during the tough times.

After about an year of fun-filled companionship with R, I got a job in Bangalore and I came over. Eventually, I found my life partner, got married and settled in Bangalore. R continued working in Mumbai at that time. But we were in touch. Always! At one point, she even tried to take up a job in Bangalore, so that she could be nearer to me, however, sadly, that did not work out.

After a couple of years of peaceful life in Bangalore, my husband and I got an opportunity to work in the US. One of the first things I did when our travel got confirmed, was to inform my dear friend R. I had told R that I was going in the month of March that year- the year was 2004. But I hadnt told her when I was coming back- the truth was that, I too did not know about it. As it turned out, we returned in November that year. However, though, I got busy with work and hadnt called up R to inform her about my return.

On the 25th of December that year, I had been thinking the whole day about wanting to call R and wish her for Christmas. At 7.15 pm I picked up my phone to call R. Her number was busy. Feeling a little frustrated and restless, I tried a couple of times more - but the number kept being busy . I gave up !

I decided to wait for sometime and then call her . The moment I stopped calling her, my phone rang. Someone, apparently, had been trying to reach me. To my pleasant shock - it was R on the other line reprimanding me for not calling her yet. :|

R had been missing me on her festival - and even though she very well knew that I am not in the country, had just taken a chance to check if I was back . I did not know what to say - I was too choked.

Believe it or not - R and I were calling each other at the exact same time in spite of not being in touch for about an year or so.

I have experienced umpteen incidents like that, because of which I completely believe in the power of thoughts. There have been umpteen times when I have sent or received thoughts from my close ones.

I strongly believe that , we attract and send thoughts and lot of our actions are based out of those thoughts. The world around us just communicates and responds to what we think and behave.

Thoughts affect our life in several ways - It might be as simple as remembering a friend and the friend responding back or something more profound as looking at , why does life occur differently for different people. Why are some people always happy, and why are some people always complaining about having less of money/love/success. And their state of happiness has no connection to the actual successes or failures they have had in their life.

But then I will leave the discussion about how "thoughts affect our life" for some other day and post.

For now , lets talk about something interesting :) - I am sure each one of us have had experiences of 'telepathic communications'. Do share your most unforgettable moments around thought communication that has left you amazed and moved.

Heres hoping that you have pleasant, and happy thoughts through out your life! I wish you all a great week ahead :)

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Akhiyoan ke Jharokoan se and some more ! :)

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My quest and interest for Ravindra Jain began when I heard this song. I was so touched by the sheer beauty in the song, that I went on to find out more about its music director, Ravindra Jain. I got very very intrigued about Ravindra Jain when I heard that he is blind.

I went on to do some research on his life and his music. And heres what I found out about his life - He was born blind in Aligarh on 28 February, 1944 to Late Pt.Indramani Jain (Vaidya Shastri) and Late Smt. Kiran Devi Jain. He is married to Smt. Deevya Jain (Daughter of Shri R.S.Jain & Poetess-Writer Smt.Nirmala Jain) . Qualifications wise, he has a degree 'Sangeet Prabhakar' - Degree from Prayag Sangeet Samiti (Allahabad).

But I think what speaks most about him, is his music. There is some kind of purity and innocence in his compositions that do not fail to touch your heart.

Here are some more beautiful pieces of his music.

Do Jasoos - Karen Mehsoos( Movie - Do Jasoos )
I had heard this song when I was a child. And I never ever forgot it. When I was writing this post, I was more than thrilled to figure out that the song has been composed by Ravindra Jain.

This is just the kind of song that would delight a child and adult alike.


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Dariya Cha Raaja - Do Jasoos( Movie - Do Jasoos )


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tera mera saath rahe ( Movie -Saudagar )

Thanks to my friend Roli for introducing this song to me.

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Other than the ones that I have posted above(i.e. the ones that I absolutely love ), Ravindra Jain has also composed some the greatest hits of bollywood like - Jab Deep Jale Aana ( Chitchor ), Geet Gaata Chal ( Geet Gaata Chal ), Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge ( Chor Machaye Shor ). Go ahead - go to UTube and have a listen :)

For those of you who are at office, dont forget to put your headphones on, before you put the music on in this post :)

Here's wishing you a fun filled and musical week ! :)

Monday, October 26, 2009

Mom in law and her boyfriendssss !!!!!!



Mom in law and boyfriends ? I can almost imagine all of you , twitching your eyebrows and asking me - You must be out of your mind - Are you sure?

Yup ! I am !!

Mom in law of mine is a super efficient, lovable, friendly lady ( Remember Chachi 420 ) . Every time I look at my MIL, I am reminded of the ever lovable Chachi 420. She has an answer to every question you have - whether it is marriage, poojas, relationships, study, cooking, books, music, language, spirituality - anything! - anything at all!

For all of us who know her well, she is our guide, philosopher and friend. Since she is very modern in her outlook, a lot of times she is my guide on what kind of clothes or make up I should wear and constantly encourages me to try out the new fashion.

Now when one is so very efficient, it is but natural, that one will have to manage a lot of boyfriends too . Raising my shoulders helplessly !

Yup ! my mom in law , as far as i know, manages two boyfriends other than the permanent one - Yup ! you guessed right - the one she cant escape from - my Father in law. Are you sure? - I can hear you all asking again .

Ya ! Every once in two days, she would want to badly meet one or both of her boyfriends- she would then summon one of us(na! bug us !! ) to summon them to our home or take her to meet them. Now, whenever she needs to go out , she dresses herself up with a lot of care. Make up, lipstick and powder - the look is complete!

Ever since I have been teaaaaasssssing her about her boyfriends, my Father in law has become very very curious. He has started taking more interest in her and her friends. Hmm. He refuses to let her go and meet her boyfriends alone. He insists on taking her with him.

Raising my shoulders helplessly again ! Yup !

Now ! Now ! Patience ! For all of 'exasperated you' who are dying to know who her boyfriends are -- They are Narayan, our Ironing Guy and James Bond , our friendly neighbourhood dryclean wala !!

Oh yes - reason to meet them of course -is to get the dirty clothes washed and ironed - be clear of that !! And dressing ? -one should ALWAYS dress well - One should DRESS FOR ONESELF and no one else.. BE CLEAR OF THAT TOO !!

Raising my shoulders helplessly again ! :)